I am a Children's Minister in Virginia at a small church (about 100) There are no single men in sight. We have lots of married couples in their 30's.
There are only 3 single women in my church, one is a Widow, one divorced and then there's me single never married 31yr old.
What am I to do??? Where can I find a good Christian guy? Any suggestions???
I also work at a church and I am in the same boat...no one like me at the church I work at. Fortunately I live in Dallas and I have been making it a point to try to find other communities to be a part of...which can be hard when ministry can easily take all of your time!!!!! I am working on setting boundaries so that I have my own personal time. I have been going to a church on Saturday nights and then I am trying to get involved in some community groups. Are there options like that where you live? Also....online dating...do I dare mention it!!!!! That is always an option. In Candice's book she gives great tips regarding online dating!
Ashley, thank you for the good ideas! I'll try and find a church in my area with a Saturday night service. What kind of community groups do you get involved in??
Any yes I have tried online dating and nothing came of it, but I'm considering trying it again.
Happy Valentines Day, I'll be praying for you
Hi Penny- I met this girl who came from a small town. She had lived there her whole life and there were NO single men. She actually found her husband online! It was a same denomination as she was dating website thats purpose was to find a spouse. She found him in less than 3 months. And she moved to where he was, got married, and they have been married for 3 years now!
It worked for her. I did ask her how it felt to meet someone online. I mean, that doesn't sound romantic. You know? But she said it was definitely worth it. The key to online dating stuff is to be honest about yourself. Completely honest. It will make the meet up a lot easier. And as far as the romance goes, she says there was plenty of it when they "met".
I don't know just a suggestion. Make sure you spiritually are on the same level, and be careful makes sure if you do do this and meet up you aren't alone!
I am so in the same boat. I have a few single men at my church, but they are more like brothers. And the school where I work all the Christian emn are married. The few single there are, are not Christians or at least the fruit isn't there. I tried the online dating thing a few different times, and to not avail.
Cheryl--I just wanted to respond to your comment "they are more like brothers."
If anything hit me from my quick read-through of Get Married last night, it was the fact that you can't categorize men and then refuse to consider them because of their category. Ok, so they're like brothers---maybe they shouldn't be?
You might want to examine WHY they feel like brothers. Because you've known them forever? Because they're not your "type?" Because they haven't made any advances to you? Because there is no chemistry? Because you have a blood relationship? If the last question is true, nix them. Otherwise, you might think about stopping referring to and looking at them like brothers.
If you stop thinking of them as brothers and began treating them differently, you may see that some options open up.
Then again, I don't know your situation so I might be majorly out of line. Correct me if I am.
