Big Churches are lonely too

I completely understand the hardships of meeting people (especially men) in small churches and small towns. But large churches have thier issues as well. I go to very large church in So. Cal. but those single guys are still quite elusive. Every Sunday morning I am front and center greeting people as they walk in the door, and the vast majority of men have their wives or girlfriends with them. In churches where there is a greater population of men, there is also a greater population of women. It can be a double edge sword. I am a member of a ministry where meeting people is our job, but I don't want my primary goal of that ministry to be meeting single guys. Do other people agree that it is pretty easy to get 'lost' in a big church?

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Permalink Reply by Melissa May 16

I go to a small church (no single men), but the large church down the road has some, I hear. They really encourage everyone to get involved in small groups, and my roommate and I (she goes there) had a Singles Potluck a few months ago where we invited all area Bible-believing churches. I didn't meet anyone my age, but it was still fun, and hopefully word gets out so more people will attend next time!

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Permalink Reply by Lanel Jun 6

Yes. I'm involved in ministry in my large church and work with a lot of great, married, people. I have a great small group that I attend weekly. Again, with wonderful, married people. My church had a singles ministry for a while. They had activities pretty regularly with a couple hundred people showing up to each one. However, it "didn't fit with their mission" so the ministry was ended. The singles were encouraged to join other small groups and the mens/women's ministry.

I don't go to church for the sole purpose of finding a husband. But, there are things that only other single people can understand that I go through. Our church just finished a 9-week message series on family. Last week at my small group someone mentioned the series and all I could say was "THANK GOODNESS IT'S OVER!". They all looked at me funny and I tried to get them to understand how hard it is to sit through nine weeks of messages on how to be a good parent, a good wife, a good husband, a good grandparent, etc. when all you want is the chance to do just that.

So, yeah, it's easy to get lot in a big church too.

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