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Added a reply May 15
Hi SarahJane and Alicia I love reading everyone's posts, because each has a new shade of meaning, a different perspective, a jewel to show! I think I have learned something from this - and I appreciate what you've said SarahJane and Rachel about not necessarily running away, but still needing to listen for God's leading. In this case, while I wasn't really interested in this guy romantically, I did wonder if he was interested in me! :0) Subsequent events proved this not to be the case as he's accepted an offer from someone else, before I could even decide! As one of my girlfriends said, he probably didn't even think about how this would affect me, all he needed was a solution to the 'problem' of not having a co-leader - ie. it wasn't about me at all. I do think, tho', he could have been just a little gracious in his dealings with me. I can kind of see this is possibly God at work anyway - this kind of off-hand behaviour would have been difficult for me to cope with were I in a leadership position with this guy. And I can rule him out as romantic potential - ha ha! But in future, I will try to be a bit more careful in my prayer about whether I should do the particular thing or not, and ask God to lead me in spite of the mixed motive - well, really, to help me clean up my motives and serve Him wholeheartedly. Alicia, I agree - that was a great paragraph by Rachel! The more I go on in this Christian life, the more I realise that God will not be put in a box. There is no formula. He deals with us all as individuals, He knows our past, our present and our future. Sometimes trusting Him is hard, but He's no less trustworthy today than He was yesterday. Blessings to you all! J x Reply »
Added a post May 12
Thanks Lady Elaine and Rachel for your replies and for taking the time to give me some Godly counsel! I have calmed down a bit now. Amazing what a bit of prayer will do. :0) I think I have learned a bit more about myself from this whole thing, but more importantly, have learned, once again, how important it is to be walking closely with God in whatever I do. I'm a silly sheep and I more often than not go wandering off the path... but thankfully my shepherd looks for me! I am going to ask the lady minister a bit more about this issue. It's certainly not for me to judge the other person - I confess to feeling judgemental when I first heard what had happened. But only God knows her heart. And I agree, I've had chance to see him in action in his dealings with people. However I do want to know what the minister's/the church's take is on this issue. I agree with what you two have written (but even if I hadn't would still have appreciated very much your replies!!) about motives for service. It's possible I am too cautious, but that's because I doubt my ability to hear from God and usually want it written in the sky. Goodness, I didn't accept an invitation to be a communion server once because I felt it was such a serious job and I seemed in my heart to like the idea of being 'up the front' at church - not a good combination. But then, how would anyone ever do any of the more prominent service roles if they subjected themselves to such scrutiny. Dearie me. Maybe I should just 'get over' myself!!! :0) I will report back if I get any meaningful answers. Thanks again - and blessings in abundance to you! J Reply »
Started this discussion. Last reply by jenny May 15.
Another topic up for discussion... and I'm wondering if I'm the only idiot who approaches this issue the way I do - maybe it's another reason why I'm still single! I was asked to consider a particular ministry/service opportunity, and I only wanted to do this thing if God wanted me to - was it His leading, His will, the thing He will empower me to do? I was alert to the fact that my motives to say yes may be influenced by the fact that there was a guy involved who had suggested me as a possible co-leader in this ministry. However, before I had time to decide, before I had time to prayerfully consider, I found out another girl had, without being asked, volunteered to take up this service opportunity with this guy. Though he doesn't have the authority to do this, he apparently accepted her offer. So before I'd even made a decision, the decision was made for me. And I can see maybe God was in this - for me, regardless of whether he was in it for them. Obviously it wasn't for me. And I have no regrets about the guy as a service partner. We obviously have quite different approaches to authority and leadership and he also hasn't handled this very graciously. It's good we're not going to be in service together. The way he's handled it has shown him to be not my sort of person. But in discussing the issue with the minister at church (who asked me in the first place, and whose decision it is as to who does what) I was more than a little surprised to hear her say that yes, she knew this guy was this other girl's favourite, and maybe this is what it took to get her into ministry and hasn't God got a sense of humour. Here's my question: am I the only person to run in the opposite direction when I think my motives might be mixed? Have I been wrong all these years? Should I have been putting my desire to find a boyfriend/get married ahead of working out what was right for me to do? Was I wrong to count this factor out? I'm more than surprised, I'm a bit stunned that this is ... Reply »
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