Blythe Hunt's Page

Thank you Candice and Donna for your book recommendations. I checked out a couple of them and have found them very encouraging and interesting. I am wondering if anyone has any recommendations, though, for a grittier book. One that deals with issues facing the modern single women. One that can answer questions like how to deal with sexual desire; how to deal in a culture of porn; how to date guys who have most likely struggled with porn; how to deal when the guy you are dating currently is struggling with porn; how to deal with a masturbation problem; how to decide if masturbation is a problem; how to deal when you have sexual sin in your past; how to deal when you've got sexual sin in your present; where to go when you've been sexually sinned against (to any degree); what to do when you've purposely caused a man to sin sexually; how to reconcile desire while facing a life of very possible, permanent singleness; how to decide if a vibrator is an acceptable alternative (and then where to get one ;)); how to catch a guy's attention without being nasty but having to compete with their everyday stimuli. These are the kinds of questions that women are facing today, and I am seeking a candid conversation with biblical counsel. Does anyone know of any resources?

I was hanging out with a single girlfriend today, and she timidly and briefly mentioned how difficult it is to deal with her sexuality as a single woman. She quickly changed the subject, but I wanted to revisit that issue. I asked her whom she talks to about it, and she admitted that there is no one--not even her older, married sister. Where do we, as women, take these issues? My friend said that she just stifles and ignores her sexuality and just hopes to get married some day.

I understand that this is an amazing opportunity for growth and sanctification in the Lord, but surely there is a way that we, as a body of Christ, and more specifically, women of the church, can address it in a biblical manner and encourage each other as we face these challenges. I think that just as talking about the problem of porn among Christian men has become less of a taboo, that the fact of female sexuality and the struggles that come with it as a single woman should be untabooed.