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Meghan (MegsWFU)

Hometown:: Winston-Salem NC

Relationship Status:: Single

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Female Friendships

Added a post Jun 4

After graduating from college, I became a "townie," so I wasn't worried about getting used to a new city--but I was worried about finding a new social circle since all of my college friends moved away. I prayed that God would provide me with a stable, supportive circle of women with whom I could share and learn. I've honestly been surprised by how He has so far answered that prayer, so I thought I'd share a little bit about my new friends. I'm sure you all have or have had that friend you feel as though you've known your whole life. The "Best Friend." For me, this woman turned out to be married and several years older than me--something I, as a single, wouldn't have expected! I met her, ironically enough, through then man I (at the time) thought I would marry. Long story short: the relationship did not last, but the friendship did. It turns out that she had also been praying for a godly friend, and she tells me that having a female friend to confide in, go shopping with, and chatter to has actually been a good thing for her marriage. We spend time together one on one or in groups several times a week, and are in contact just about every day. I have also met two friends at my workplace. One is married; the other is engaged. Again--a big surprise for me! Both said that outside of their romantic relationships, they felt lonely and yearned for female companionship. So we've started a book club that will meet weekly. I suppose the point of my ramblings is simply, to echo other posters, to throw expectations out the window and keep your eyes open in all situations. I think it's wonderful to be able to look at my life now and really see how God has provided, and especially WHO He has provided. If I had been able to design my life as a young, single professional, I probably would have populated it with other single gals like myself. But I've learned that the relationships I have with married women aren't in any way "lacking." I've been pleasantly surprised by the prio... Reply »

Broken Engagements

Added a post May 10

It is both comforting and saddening to know that so many other women have experienced this type of pain. Comforting because your stories are proof positive of God's faithfulness, and saddening because of the heartbreak represented here. I'm shocked by how similar your stories seem to my own: promises of marriage, talk of homes and children initiated by a man, and then a sudden, unforeseen breaking off with no satisfactory explanation. Like several of you, I had already committed my heart and was only waiting for a ring. I have had about two months to recover, and although they are the darkest place I've ever been, I am being shown that God's sovereignty is supreme. Looking back (hindsight often is 20/20, I suppose), I can identify ways in which this man needs to grow before becoming a husband and father, and ways in which our relationship was not glorifying to God. Most especially, I have learned to lean wholly on the Father because I had no other choice. He has taught me a great deal about His character. Still, I think about all of the good in this man and realize that my heart has miles to go before it even begins to heal. It is difficult to move on without knowing the why of it all, and difficult to face the fact that nothing I can do or could have done would "fix" this man or the underlying problems in our relationship. It breaks my heart in a completely different way when I think that until the shell around his heart is cracked, he will never find the sort of relationship I know he wants. It is saddening that past hurts are able to so daunt some hearts that they are unable receive unconditional love from another. I have begun praying every day that God would heal this man's heart and enable him to proceed with wisdom and a Godly focus. I see his potential and know that he could bless some woman with a wonderful husband. For myself, I pray that I will have the courage to let myself love fully in the future. I can definitely see how it's so much easier to c... Reply »