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Jerena L Merk (JeriRose): Female

Relationship Status:: Single

About Me:: I am praying to marry the man described in Pslam 112. I am 46 and single and WILL NOT settle. I have had many interested but am waiting on God for His best for me.

We are to love GOD (not a person) with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, then we are able to love our neighbor (mate) as ourself. I pray constantly to love Jesus above all and keep Him my Frist Love, for I do not want to lose eternal life (see Revelation 2).

I will not EVER give God's place to a man. Being desperate to marry for happiness is the way women replace God with a false god. I see it all the time on the prayer site where I pray. They are determined to have some man, even if he doesn't want them. I tell them to put GOD first ABOVE all, to quit chasing a man and start chasing God. Many don't like what I and the others tell them along these lines, but it doesn't stop me from preaching it.

I am an intercessor first and foremost, with a prophetic call on my life. I am praying to be baptized with the Holy Spirit and fire on a contiuing basis...to be a witness for Him. I pray to be anointed for whatever ministry He has for me.

I am praying for America to repent onto revival. Starting with the church, this nation needs to repent. I have been in personal repentance and my relationship with God has become so close through this. Repenting is not a bad but a GOOD thing! His kindness leads us to repentance, and when we begin turning from our sin our relationshipb with Him becomes so beautiful! Learn more on my website, listed below...You will get a taste of the heart that beats in me and the fire that burns in me.

I am a writer and waiting on God for direction in that area.

As God's people, we must go to His Word for direction in ALL AREAS. We can not just do what we want. That is why I am glad to find a website that is saying we need to pray to get God's choice for us in marriage.

I hope this wasn't too long. It matters not to me my hobbies, interests, etc. as much as that I love God and want to honor Him in EVERY ASPECT of life.

Website:: jeremiahstears.com

E-mail Address:: ineedjesus365247@live.com

Favorite Music:: Third Day, Delirious?, Chris Tomlin, Passion conference worship, most praise and worship, Integrity Hosanna! worship, Michael W. Smith, Stryper, the older Christian metal bands, Larry Norman, Steve Taylor, really so many it's hard to list them all.

Favorite Movies:: Amazing Grace, Lord of the Rings, Mercy Streets, Anne of Green Gables and sequals, A Walk to Remember, Pride and Prejudice (1985 BBC version), Buttercream Gang, One Night with the King, The Passion of the Christ, The Cross and the Switchblade, Fly Wheel, Radio, The King and I (musical version), Chariots of Fire, The Sound of Music, The Ten Commandments, Ben Hur

Favorite Books:: I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris (!!!), ALL Frank Peretti titles (liked every one I've read and read most), Intercessory Prayer and Watchman Prayer by Ductch Sheets, Escape from the Twisted Planted by Harold Myra, They Speak with Other Tongues by John Sheryl, The Temperament Book by Tim LaHaye, The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings by JRR Tolkein, The Chronicles of Narnia by CS Lewis, Anne of Green Gables and sequals by LM Montgomery, books by authors below

Favorite Authors:: Frank Peretti, Lori Wick, Dutch Sheets, Joshua Harris, JRR Tolkein, CS Lewis, Michael Phillips, George McDonald, Judith Pella, Harold Myra (the one book he wrote above),

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What other books are you reading to prepare you for marriage?

Added a reply Apr 11

I think some don't understand what Joshua Harris was saying, because it's so alien to our culture. My parents pretty much did coursthip, as did many in that age group. They met at the mission (like a mission to the homeless), where she sang, and it went from there.... The man I dated was a fine person; he just wasn't for me. And since we broke it off, I haven't dated anyone in spite of the interest of many. I was around 29, then, and I'm 46 now. I simply see no reason to get emotionally close to men I have no intention of marrying, so I steer clear of this by not going places one on one with them. Also, let's be honest: sex is going on between people who say they are Christians. If I am never alone with a man, I never have to worry about being approached for sex. I know there are people still holding out for marriage to have sex (since I am one), and I am not saying everyone who dates is giving in. But it is so much easier to avoid temptation if you are never alone with a guy. In that case, I would be for group or double dating. Anyway, I know many don't agree with the Joshua Harris book, like the man who wrote "I Gave Dating a Chance" (which I haven't read). I just feel it's very easy to learn someone's character and whatever else you need to know about them in a group setting. In personal dating, isn't he going to put his best food forward, anyway, so he might fool you into believing he's something he's not or believes something he doesn't? It is as I observe him in a group, interacting with others and just being himself, that I can get to know if he is someone I would want to be in a close relationship with. In that situation, he has no clue I am observing him, so he won't try to impress me by being someone he thinks I want him to be. Reply »

What other books are you reading to prepare you for marriage?

Added a post Apr 10

I am reading the Bible and I read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." In the Bible I can find the kind of character a truly Godly man will have, then I never need question how much he loves God. I can just look for the Christ-like character. I read a book back a while that said we are to pray that WE have the character we are asking for in a man. Women often right out a list that = looking for Jesus. But they need to pray to become Christ-like themselves to be worthy of this man. I do not remember the title of that book, but that idea has stuck with me ever since I read it. Did a marriage study with Kay Arthur material, and we read BEST Love by Ed Wheat (really good book). I lean toward not dating "around," just getting to know a man in a church or family setting...and that should allow you to figure out if you'd like to go further in a relationship with him. My one on one dating, from a match made situation, was not that great....so when "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" came out, I realized that's what I had done. So that book hugely ministered to me. Dating does seem to just set you up for broken hearts and divorce, so I'd rather wait until God points out the man to me that has HIS character. I guess I kissed reading such books goodbye, as I haven't read anything recently. Saw the "Every Woman's Battle Book" in the kitchen and read the part on setting boundries in dating....VERY GOOD! I tend to just wait on God, believing that as I become as Christ-like as possible THAT is preparing me for marriage. Reply »

Divorced Men and Settling

Added a post Apr 10

The issue of whether to date a divorced man should have nothing to do with age, ane EVERYTHING to do with what The Bible instructs. Get on a Bible website and type in "divorce" in the keyword search. Do a study and see what reasons God allows divorce and what reasons remarriage is OK. Then, you can consider, as was said before, on a case by case basis if you should consider these men. If you are only considering them because of age BE PATIENT! Trust God to direct you to the right man. Don't rush. (Hey, I'm 46 and still single, never been in a serious relationship and waiting God's best). The thing is: It's not bad to be single! It took me a few years to learn it, but a single person can know God in THE MOST AWEOSME WAY, in a way a married person will be distracted from. Rather than worrying about who you are going to marry and making finding a mate the focus of Your life, make GOD the focus of your life! God is just such a Father, Husband, Brother, Best Friend to me. I can't even imagine being married sometimes, becuase of how much I love God and love focusing on Him. I joined here, because I see people are willing to wait and pray for a good man. So, though I keep telling singles to be happy where they are, I also feel God has a man out there for me. Be content in the state you are in, though! It's OK to pray, but sometimes we can start to feel disatisfied where we are....So I found a description of the man I want in the Bible. That way, rather than get discouraged when I pray, I remember those attributes and that keeps me going. I have picked Psalm 112 as the model man, as this describes a righteous man. It sounds like you might be going about this by the world's system....Why not just wait on God to bring that man until you just "know" he's the one, rather than dating around? Some say you can't get to know him if you don't date him. But I believe you can learn enough about him ahead of time to make an informed decision whether to officially start dating...... Reply »

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