Posted by Helen on May 9th, 2008 at 3:26pm
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INTRODUCTION
Hello ladies thanks for stopping by. I'm a 27 soon to be 28 single woman in professional schl with a passion for God. I grew up in the church, my grandfather was a missionary, so my parents have always instilled in my siblings and I the love of God. As a kid, sunday schl and later as a teen youth group ministry was something I loved, when I got to college, I went astray. Not by the world's standard but I knew I wasnt living right by God. I was a born again Christian who was really a sunday sunday Christian, one foot in both worlds...sigh. Over the years things have happened in my life, a long term relationship gone wrong, 2 exes that knowing what i know now as a woman of God, I would never have dated. I started afresh at the start of the year with a brand new outlook in my identity as a princess of the most High, I know His will for every area of my life, including relationship/marriage. I've read the get married book, and its simply amazing, what I needed to read, just finished it 2 days ago, going to re read it, and I'll keep consulting it.
I'm somewhat in the same predicament except that the man in question is a good friend and a prayer partner, we pray by phone for those who are curious as we are in different states (I prayed about it when he decided he wanted us to be, and I felt God's peace, and He's been with us ever since). He's what I'd describe as a Boaz, we were friends when we both had 1 leg each in the world, and God drew us both and set us apart for Himself individually and that drew us even closer as now Christ was the center of it all.
I know he was attracted to me in the past physically (I remember a few yrs back when he told me the man who marries me will be a lucky man lol) and similar interests, and even more so for all the right reasons, he has said he sees God's beauty in me, in my presence. I've committed the whole friendship to God, and have let Him lead and guide us even in our prayers, no manipulation because at the end of the day I want to see God's hand at work and I've seen it in the past couple months. God waited for both of us to be unattached, get out of relationships before he decided to make us prayer partners. I asked God for His peace to guard my heart, and prayed that He show me if my friend is part of His plan for my future. While I have peace in my heart, I still have it all committed to God to make sure my emotions arent in the way of things. Given that not only are we great friends but that our families are as well, I wouldnt want anything we do to mess it up, and going ahead of God I know will be stepping out of His will.
POWER OF PRAYER
Yesterday after reading get married, I felt amped, and prayed and thanked God for everything, knowing that in the depths of my heart I do know that He created me to be a helper fit for the man He'll give me. For 2 can put 10,000 to flight, and 1 can only put a 1,000 to flight. Knowing that His word says its not good for man to be alone, and the man He has for me is out there alone, and that God has a divine purpose and destiny that can only be accomplished with both of us together. In addition to a general prayer for a husband, I also reminded God that it was profitable for His kingdom for my friend and I to be together because He has placed in our hearts similar dreams and that together we can better accomplished those dreams which will bring glory to His name. That He said we should be equally yoked and my friend and I are both His children with a passion for His kingdom here on earth.
When I got done, I felt peace, and an urge in my heart that my friend would call me that day (yesterday), so I spoke the word out and decreed it to establish it here on earth like said in Job. Barely 1.5hrs later, I realized I had a missed call from my friend which was unusual for its a workday and he never calls early on a workday because we are both busy during the day. He eventually called back later that evening and we had a pleasurable conversation that centered around God and our life as always. God had done it again, I spoke His word which is life, and He made it happen.
I'd like to encourage all women to remember to pray boldly, I've been doing it since my friend and I got closer and its really transformed our friendship. Once I asked God for Him to enable a way so that my friend can confide in me about the type of woman he wants, and a day or 2 later, we had a conversation that was suppsed to be quick but ended in him telling me about his whole dating past and what he wanted. I have so many testimonies like that in my journal. I asked God to give us things to pray about, and God gave us an assignment through him for us to accomplish that had us praying every day for a month straight, and we accomplished it. Later I could feel God telling me this is just a taste of it, I gave you him a task to accomplish, he couldnt do it on his own, so he asked you to help him, and together you both did it, this is what a helper fit for him is all about. Every month I write down what I expect from every area in my life including this friendship and the past couple months have been on point. I would alsways pray and write as the Spirit led to write. One month I even wrote down the phrase he would tell me "Helen God has made you beautiful" and that month he told me "Helen God is filling you up with his beauty". In April, I wrote down that he will reveal so much of himself to me in ways I never imagined, and that month he was confiding in me with things that he himself wasnt even sure why he was telling me. The power of praying boldly, and knowing that your expectations are according to God's will, and being able to step back and see God's hand at work. I wanted to know that if things went to the next level, it would be God and Him alone that did it, it would be to the glory of His name!
End of last yr, I was praying myself out of a stagnant relationship which was clearly not god's perfect will for my life, I knew my friend, but we were nowhere close to where we are, months later, I am now the person he calls as soon as he has a testimony or any good news in his life. God in His creative way appears to be calculating something that I have no idea what, but I know that no good thing does He withhold for those that walk upright with Him.
One thing Candice mentions that I see I've been doing that really helps is encouraging His spiritual maturity!! By praying together, and sharing thoughts, and resources we've both encouraged our walk with God. I also realized have been dreaming with him and didnt know that, we talk about God's plans for his life, where he's headed, he asks for my advice on decisions he's contemplating. We have many shared interests and callings that even now every conversation always ends up brainstorming. I have created a comfort level where he has no shame telling me about any idea, we are each other's personal cheerleader, always thanking God for each other's daily victories. I pray to God I wont have to pull a Ruth though :) but sometimes I wonder if we arent at the next level in a yr whether I'll be able to just let it be. I truly dont see that, at the level of connectedness that we are, by the start of 09 if things havent progressed, I can clearly see myself pulling a Ruth and stepping aside. God has my heart, and I've told Him to take away the feelings if my friend isnt part of His plan for my life. One thing I do know is that God is a good GOD! So I can stand upon His word believing this for myself, and if it isnt my friend, that means God has someone that is even greater and I havent met the person yet, so either way that gets me excited.
For the month of may, I basically wrote down that God's hands are upon my friend and I, that He brought us together for a reason that we both will never fully understand just yet. To trust in HIm and yield my emotions to His perfect will. That my friend will confide in me in ways that we both wont know why (this has already started and the month only just begun) I wrote that God's peace and joy will fill my heart as I wait upon Him, that my friend knows my character, sees my beauty and sees God in me. That I should wait for god's appointed time, and not act on my own human emotions, that in due time I'll see that He is God and nothing is too great for Him or too impossible for Him.
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