Recent Roundup

Today I joined radio host Debbie Chavez to talk about being single, hoping for marriage, living like you're planning to marry and more in an interview about Get Married.

The interview was live but she's posted a link to the archive here.

Also today, Ted ran my article How to Pray for a Husband

on Boundless. If you've read "Pray Boldly," this will read like a part 2. If you haven't, it's a primer on the way we approach God in our desire for marriage. Here's an excerpt:

Things may not turn out how you want. In C.S. Lewis' The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, Susan asked Mr. Beaver about Aslan saying, "Is he — quite safe?" Mr. Beaver replied, "Safe? Who said anything about safe? Course he isn't safe. But he's good. He's the King, I tell you." You can know that wherever your journey with Him leads, it will be good.

Believe God is able. Trust Him. But know that believing and trusting aren't the same as setting yourself up for bitter disappointment if He doesn't answer you the way you hope He will. God is calling us to faith, like Shadrach, Mesach and Abednego. (keep reading)

Suzanne Gosselin blogged about the article on theBoundless Line blog, talking about how she prayed for marriage when she was single, and how her husband prayed for her.

Yesterday I answered a question from a woman who dated a non-believer, conceived his child, had a miscarriage, and is now wondering if she needs to tell her family. That and how to move forward in a new relationship that has the potential to go to marriage. You can read her question and my answer in "Hope for a Broken Life."

Comments

[Rachel V]

Hi Candice,
I really enjoyed the radio interview with Debbie Chavez.

Currently I'm in a relationship with a great Christian man and we're moving towards marriage. What are some "good questions" to be asking to rule out red flags and encourage our relationship to move towards marriage?

~Rachel

[Candice Watters]

Hi Rachel, Thanks for the great question. Recently we were meeting with a dating couple we've mentored and they surprised us with a night of free babysitting so we could go out on a date, and they could spend an evening seeing what it's like to make dinner for a family and care for children.

They got the idea from the back of Josh Harris's book "Boy Meets Girl." The last section provides questions and conversation starters to have when you're dating. I think it's a great tool for discerning if your relationship has the potential to move to marriage.